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Folks, I almost didn't make the deadline tonight. I met my boyfriend at work before closing, so we could ride the train home together. As we tried to leave, we realized that the lock was stuck. As we tried to make the lock budge, suddenly it gave. Unfortunately, it didn't move the bolt. We were then in a store with a completely broken lock, unable to get out. Well, we finally managed to get out, but that was a full two hours and one locksmith later. Anyway, enough about me. Hello LadyJ, This is in responce to a column that appeared long ago, May 16 to be exact. There was a posting from a sexually active 16 year old. In your responce, you say, "First of all, the thing that immediately screams for my attention is that you 'did use a condom but not till he was right about to cum.'" Why did you not say, "First of all, the thing that immediately screams for my attention is that you are a 16 year old having sex (and then proceed to how it is not right, safe, ect.)" Milo Well, the simplest reason that I said what I said, and not what you said, is because it was the truth. The first thing that screamed for my attention immediately was that she believed that such an irresponsible practice would be adequate protection against disease and pregnancy. Second of all, I don't think that telling a 16 year old that sex is "wrong" is going to have any positive bearing on his or her decision to have sex. I think that people who lecture adolescents against sex do more harm than good. Regardless of how inappropriate it might be for a teenager to be sexually active, the fact of the matter is that it happens. The very best thing that we can hope to do is equip kids with some information and counsel them about the safest way to go about what is inevitable. If you'll notice, I advised her to spend some time being a kid for a while before further involving herself in sexual behavior. I explained to her the wisdom of waiting until she was a bit more experienced with life before allowing her life to become further complicated by sex. I have absolutely no regrets about how I answered her question. I stand by everything I said. I also expect that your approach of lecturing people who come to you for advice probably discourages many people from coming to you for advice. |
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Born and raised in NYC, LadyJ developed a quick wit and an acid tongue to entertain her friends, and cut down those foolish enough to oppose her. This abrasiveness earned her a reputation as a heartless bitch in some circles, but those closest to her still believe she has a great capacity for understanding and caring, and a talent for advice. On this website, LadyJ offers herself both to help those who ask her advice, and to entertain those who find her humorous. Those who fall into neither category are leftovers, and we all know that no one likes leftovers. So, if you have a problem that you need help with, and the courage to accept her advice...
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