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I just made the most garlicky meal I have ever encountered. The house has lost that "Can't you tell? We have cats" smell, and has taken on a "Vampire, begone" reek.


I have (kinda) a girlfriend, but after a while he friends started liking me and she didn't want to hurt them so she dumped me and told me why. I like her alot and I don't like any of her friends! I can't stop thinking of her and I want her back. What should I do?!

I don't understand this. You and she were already going out, and because her friend(s?) started liking you, she dumped you to spare their feelings? What a lame excuse! If she held you in any esteem whatsoever, she never would have given you a pathetic line like that.

See, here's the deal. If two friends both like a guy before any dating occurs, they might opt to show each other the courtesy of leaving him be. However, if one of them has already started dating him, there is no reason to entertain the notion of calling it quits. Instead, the friend's interest is seen as either harmless admiration of her friend's taste, mild envy, or out and out raving jealousy. The first two can be tolerated, and the world keeps turning. The third is a symptom of a weakness in a friendship, and would more likely break up the friendship before the romantic relationship. The dumping of the boyfriend almost invariably follows soon afterward, however.

Regardless of all of this, that is not your problem. She doesn't have enough interest in you to give a relationship between you any viability. If that were not the case, she would not have unloaded you so quickly. Face it, it was never meant to be. Move on.


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