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Heya folks, I'm back! I've been out seeking wisdom, attending seminars, shaking babies and kissing hands. However, I have returned now, and I am full of... advice! LadyJ, in the coming year, I will, at about the same time, become divorced and get all my nasty credit cards paid off. It has taken me a long time to get to this point, and once I'm there, many options will become open, and most of the old ones closed. I am having a tough time deciding which options to pursue, (since I can't pursue them all) and wondered if you had any suggestions on how to decide? leapfaith Being in a similar position, my advice to you is to thoroughly enjoy your independence and freedom. If dating is what you want to do, make that happen! If lying in bed and watching TV is what you want to do, do that with gusto! You are the master of your own fate. You no longer have to be concerned with the needs of a lifemate. You are no longer controlled financially by creditors. You have to answer to no one but yourself. Personally, I spent about a month after my breakup getting stuff in order. I re-learned selfishness. I stopped buying groceries that I don't like. I turned the toilet paper roll around just because it would have annoyed him if he'd been here. Now I am dating again. I am not by any means looking for a commitment. I am in no rush to relinquish control of my life to another to any degree. I am just looking to have fun, and fun is what I will have. Leapfaith, You are just gonna have to learn how to live solely for yourself. Explore your options, and see what fits. Don't be in a rush to commit to anything, because you'll certainly find yourself in another bind. THERS A GUY I REALLY LIKE BUT I DON'T THINK HE'S GETTING THE HINT WHAT SHOULD I DO? Well, if you've screamed at him the way you're screaming at me, chances are that he has gotten the hint, he just doesn't want it. While subtlety doesn't always work, neither does screaming. I would suggest simply going up to this guy and asking him out on a date. It works when it's supposed to, and it doesn't when it's not supposed to. You'll never know unless you try. If you're afraid of rejection, get over it. There are much worse things. |
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Born and raised in NYC, LadyJ developed a quick wit and an acid tongue to entertain her friends, and cut down those foolish enough to oppose her. This abrasiveness earned her a reputation as a heartless bitch in some circles, but those closest to her still believe she has a great capacity for understanding and caring, and a talent for advice. On this website, LadyJ offers herself both to help those who ask her advice, and to entertain those who find her humorous. Those who fall into neither category are leftovers, and we all know that no one likes leftovers. So, if you have a problem that you need help with, and the courage to accept her advice...
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