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Greetz, peeps! I'm all buzzed and happy. No, I'm not high on drugs or drunk from alcohol. I'm just really happy to be where I am in my life right now, and I also had my piercings redone tonight. It's been a cool day. Hey Lady J, Well, I have an odd problem. I have been dating a girl for a month now. I really enjoy her company. She has admitted to me that she was treated like s--t by every guy she dated before me. I would consider myself to be warm and compassionate, and couldn't ever bring myself to treat anyone badly. She prefers to have sex and oral sex because she feels like she can separate herself from the act. A deep kiss is hard to come by. She says to give her time until she adjusts. Do I take this emotional baggage on??? What do you think? Thx, FUNK age 21 Bad news, dude. Do not, under any circumstances, get further involved with this person. She tells you that men have treated her like shit. This indicates to me that either, a) she seeks out this treatment repeatedly, which means she's pretty screwed up, or b) she only believes they've treated her like shit, and she tells herself that to absolve herself of the guilt of screwing up each of those relationships. She will suck the life out of you. She will be needy and ungrateful. She will make you feel like you're not doing right by her, no matter how much of your precious energy you expend upon her. Then, when all is said and done, you will be yet another asshole from her past... and you'll be sad to find that you had begun to fit the profile! It will all be because of her. The fact that you are willing to step back and look at this in an unbiased manner speaks well for you. Don't make a mistake like this. You seem like an intelligent young man in the prime of his life. Find someone who enjoys kissing you deeply and won't pin her shortcomings on her imagined past. Find someone who can give you an equal amount of energy back. Hey LadyJ: How do you know when love is really just a rush toward the familiar? What if those familiar old feelings include wreckage left over from growing up in an alcoholic household? Man... you're a bit of a psychological hypochondriac, aren't you! Maybe you should just not worry too much about the familiar, and worry about getting laid once in a while. Just a tip, though: your alcoholic household will not impress bar-bunnies. |
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Born and raised in NYC, LadyJ developed a quick wit and an acid tongue to entertain her friends, and cut down those foolish enough to oppose her. This abrasiveness earned her a reputation as a heartless bitch in some circles, but those closest to her still believe she has a great capacity for understanding and caring, and a talent for advice. On this website, LadyJ offers herself both to help those who ask her advice, and to entertain those who find her humorous. Those who fall into neither category are leftovers, and we all know that no one likes leftovers. So, if you have a problem that you need help with, and the courage to accept her advice...
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